Replacing Negatives with Positives


Every time you feel judgement of another you can choose to go into your heart, tell yourself you do not wish harm to any other and just focus on love for yourself and the other.

Every time you feel tense [a very usual state of mind] you can choose to focus on peace. Think peace, feel peace. Build the soul energy of peace within.

When we build a Soul energy and call it in and replace anxiety and tension with peace, we begin to radiate that soul energy in our aura and out into the world.

You can choose to switch your attention from negative thoughts and to put your attention on love – thinking it, feeling it, building this Soul energy. It takes practice.

When you are with others and you find yourself concerned with what’s expected of you or what to talk about or such, you can choose to centre in your heart and love.





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We develop our personal power by claiming it and using it –

To choose the thoughts we allow into our minds and those we don’t allow.

To make conscious choices.

To be true to our Selves.

To set goals – for example to overcome an addiction, learn a new skill, volunteer. To set goals and stick to them. Never give up. If you fall down, pick yourself up and start over, forgiving yourself, believing in yourself, always loving and firm with yourself.

To make plans – daily plans. It’s important to plan leisure time, too, or that just gets frittered away and you don’t feel the benefit of it.

To set up routines and structures such as a time you go to bed and a time you get up, a time to journal, a time to meditate, a time to walk, charging your mobile in the same place at the same time each day, putting keys away in the same place.

To set boundaries such as no screens after 9pm; checking emails once or twice daily but not continuously, similarly with your mobile: to limit social media time.

To choose to start the day with an attitude of strength, focusing on this before you get out of bed in the morning.

To live a life of purpose, a purposeful life.

To keep on keeping on and never give up. To choose to learn and grow and improve and to give of your best and enjoy life.

Personal Power is an attitude.  You can choose to hold an attitude of strength or of weakness at any moment.

To develop your personal power you also need to frequently repeat personal power affirmations, with strong positive emotion [this is important] such as –

I am strong, powerful and potent.

I am 100% powerful and decisive in everything I do.

I am powerful, centred and loving at all times.

I am powerful.

I can do anything I set my mind to do.

I am emotionally invulnerable to other people’s negativity.  Other people’s negative energy washes off me like water off a duck’s back.

We all have power within us but we need to claim it and use it and use it for good.

One essential personal power practice is to develop the habit of putting a Golden Force Field of protection up around yourself before you get out of bed and anytime negativity is coming up in yourself or from other people. This is like clothing yourself with the energy of love and when you do this regularly and, especially when other people are being negative, it helps you to not react but to choose how you will respond.

Simply say to yourself I put up my Golden Force Field of Love around me and then visualise it and feel it.


Learn from the Past


“Learn from the past, design the future and live in the Now.” Einstein

Learn from your past experiences. For example if your energy is low today, ask yourself why might that be and really think about what you did, ate, drank or didn’t, what was going on physically, psychologically, spiritually, everything about the day before. See if you can discover patterns that cause low energy in you or reactions of various kinds.

Don’t get stuck in regret – that drains your energy and wastes your life. Determine to learn, to grow, to be a better person.

Our mistakes can teach us and help us so much if we acknowledge them, allow no shame and journal about them so that we understand what the mistake can teach us.

We learn by making mistakes. Mistakes are positive. We aim not to make them but if we do, we love and forgive ourselves and seek to learn from them so that we can grow and improve.

Some mistakes we do make over and over because we are finding it difficult to change an old habit or pattern.

When we write about a repeated mistake in our journal and listen to what’s going on and why we keep making this mistake, we begin to understand why we are finding it such a challenge to change this pattern.

Some mistakes are, in our minds, very big, and we find it very difficult to forgive ourselves.  We are overcome by fear.  We get caught in self criticism and self abuse. This just keeps us stuck in fear and regret.

Many of us find it difficult to forgive any mistake we make and fall into self abuse and fear, even for the small mistakes.

This is the result of a faulty belief that we must measure up to the” never to be satisfied” standards of the critical inner parent who is always on our case, letting us know that we are never good enough, never worthy – that we must try to be perfect or we won’t be safe.



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As a result of the hold fear has on us, we give our power away in very many ways.

We give our power away to our emotions when we let our emotions take over.  You might feel angry about what someone does and react with anger, giving your power away to your emotions. Instead, you could acknowledge your anger, see what has happened as your lesson and choose to learn from it. This way you are claiming your personal power and using it to help you to learn and grow. Remember, whenever you get upset, the cause of the upset is within you, in your thoughts, beliefs, attitudes, interpretations. The other person or situation is the trigger of your upset but not the cause.

We give our power away to other people when we depend on their advice rather than listening to our own inner guidance and using our conscious minds and common sense to discern what is best for us.  We give away our power, often, to people in authority or people with some importance in society.

We give away our power to our physical bodies when we don’t take charge of our bodies and let our body run us.

We give our power away to the media when we catch the fear that’s being put out.  We need to question and think about what we hear and choose what to listen to and what not to listen to.  Too much of the media is not helpful to us. A lot of it is negative repetition.

We give our power away to the weather when we let the weather dictate how we feel and behave.

People constantly give their power away to the ads believing what they say. Ads are powerful and we need to be very questioning and discerning and do our own research.

We give our power away to our inner child when we indulge ourselves, wallow, stay in our comfort zone, don’t face old fear habits and instead let them control us.

When you are not owning your personal power, you are a victim. You can’t help yourself if you don’t own your personal power.

Everything in life is teaching us to own our personal power. Personal power can help us in so many ways.

Working with Personal power will help you to be more focused and clear in your life, to take charge, to develop confidence, to learn to be true to your Self while also honouring and respecting others. It will help you to use your time far more efficiently by making daily plans, watching time wasters and being more focused and organised.  It will help you to respond rather than react and to manage stress. It will help you to make conscious choices and to set goals for yourself and stick to them. It will help you to push negative thoughts out of your mind and to replace these with positive, Spiritual ones. It will help you to take action and stop the habit of procrastination. It will help you to develop determination, discipline, courage, decisiveness detachment and persistence and to never give up or give into defeat. It will help you to think about what you were going to say and choose whether to say it or not and to be clear about your motives in any given situation.

We can only be really effective in life when we claim and use our personal power.


Never Give up


If you run up against problems, difficulties, resistance as you are trying to create more structure, order and discipline– write about these in your journal. Take time to listen to what’s going on for you.

Never give yourself a hard time and allow disappointment. These faulty habits take away your motivation and power. In this you are giving your power away to your critical inner parent who just leaves you feeling unworthy, unlovable, bad, a failure.

It’s all about practice and allowing yourself to learn. We learn through making mistakes and writing about them so we understand what happened and gain the golden nugget of wisdom there is to learn from the mistake.

Each one of us needs to build discipline and we all have this quality latent within us but we must claim it, practise it and visualise ourselves living it. Remember discipline is ordered activity, not a noose around your neck or a harsh authority figure ordering you about the place.

Choose to build discipline for yourself, not out of duty or trying to be perfect. Sell the idea to yourself by focusing on how it will benefit you and others around you. It’s a way of loving yourself – taking steps that lessen stress and have you more at the helm of your ship.

Never give up. What really builds your power, discipline and determination, is to pick yourself up, and start over. Never give up on yourself.

“Never give up.” I have found those words, which are up on my bathroom wall, really help me to stay connected to what I want to achieve and why. They keep me connected to my strength.

Remember, in order to keep focused on a goal you need to have a clear purpose. Write about why you want to make this change, this improvement. Why is it important to you?

Write about how it will benefit you and your experience of life. Sell the idea to yourself.

Never give up. Don’t allow a sense of deprivation, the missing of whatever it may be such as lying on an extra half hour, whatever you are letting go of in your diet, and such. Focus on the benefits and why you want to make these changes. This will strengthen your resolve.




Personal Power


Personal power is essential to psychological and spiritual health.  It’s a quality latent within all of us but we need to claim it and use it and use it for good. When I first heard of personal power I had no clear idea of what it meant. I had heard of assertiveness but it’s very different to this, and to anger. It really is more about taking charge of your life, taking responsibility for yourself and what you experience. Taking on personal power means the end of victim consciousness and blame.

It’s about choosing the thoughts you allow into your mind and the thoughts you don’t allow. It’s about using your power to think and to take charge of all your energies and use them only in service of love.  It’s about managing your emotions and not allowing them to run you.

Thoughts and words are powerful. They create – what you do want or what you don’t want, depending on the thoughts you hold in your mind. Use your personal power to push out of your mind any negative thoughts that arise and to replace them with positive, spiritual thoughts, Become aware and conscious of what you expect and affirm and choose what you really want. Don’t unconsciously go with what you fear.

Personal power is about being the cause of our reality. Our thoughts create our reality. While we can’t control many situations, we can certainly control how we perceive them and the way we respond to them.

When I first learned about personal power I became aware of how I had been missing it in my life and what a difference it could make to my life. I had learned through my training in psychotherapy what a fearful person I was but I didn’t know how to change this. I had always thought of myself as shy. I realised then that shyness was fear and I could change this. Personal power helped me to see I could be in charge of myself and needed to be. I could choose to move out of my comfort zone.

Personal Power is the power within you to make conscious choices.

It is about claiming and using the power that is in you to live your best life, give of your best and do your part.

It’s about being alive and living fully.

It’s about direction, discipline, courage, motivation, determination, focus, decisiveness.

Power can be used for good or evil and so we need to be sure to always use it in service of love.

“The sole advantage of power is that you can do more good.” Baltasar Gracian

We have given our power away to an external code of fear and don’t realise that we have an inner compass, our Soul, our Higher Self, always guiding us from within. Most people have never even heard of this though many have heard of “the still small voice within”.  Many hearing this idea now, would say well I don’t hear this guidance. Our lives are too busy and focused on outside matters. You need to make space in your life, quiet time, to hear this guidance. You need to make time to meditate and journal and ask the help of your Higher Self, not just when you are troubled, but every day. You need to work on building this relationship so that you become very aware of this guidance and learn to live by it. This is what it means to be true to your Self.

As a result of the hold of fear on us, we give our power away in very many ways.


The Rewards of an Ordered Life


Discipline strengthens you and is an essential part of developing personal power and putting order and structure into your life.

Many believe it’s the opposite of freedom. In fact the truth is that discipline, order and structure give you more freedom. They free up time that is wasted in being stressed, lack of planning and organisation and discipline, and feeling pulled in all directions.

People frequently experience overwhelm because of a lack of order and structure in life. When you are feeling stressed by too much happening, too many demands and that sense of too little time – stop. Don’t allow this suffering to continue.

Make some quiet time to reflect on why you are having this experience of overwhelm. Sit with your journal and ask your Higher Self and Spirit to help you to understand the cause of overwhelm and to discover solutions. Take charge and use your power to think.

In life there are many repetitive daily tasks and commitments.  Order, structure, discipline and planning make it much less hassle to manage these and the reward is you feel in charge of your day, your life, rather than having your energies all over the place.

When you decide that you are going to put more order into your life, you begin to see where and how it will make a difference to your experience. You need to be patient with yourself and to be ready to make adjustments according to what you discover as you work at it.

Use your journal to note down what you will focus on first. You might decide that the first change you will make is to get up maybe half an hour earlier so that you create a quiet space for you to start making a plan for your day so you are prepared.

Then you might add to this space by choosing as well as taking time to plan, that you will meditate for 3 of those days for 10 to 15 minutes and to journal for 4 days. This way you are increasing your sense of quiet and the wonder of silence and the effectiveness of listening to what’s really going on for you and tuning in to your Higher Self and inner guidance.

You need to be persistent and choose to be excited by this project rather than heavy – don’t allow any space to that critical inner parent voice. Focus on victories and on what you want to improve and how you will go about improving.

Don’t put it off. Decide that you will start today.  You might start by journaling and writing down how you desire to have more order and structure in your life and to build discipline. Write about how it will benefit you. Be strong and determined, and visualise yourself organised and feeling good. Remember it takes practice and never giving up.