It is not other people or situations that cause your upset – it is your thoughts, attitudes, beliefs and interpretations.
Even though the other person may have acted inappropriately, your upset is caused by your own interpretations and beliefs.
When you are honest with yourself and are willing to look at what in you has caused the upset, then you can heal and make changes.
Our habit is to see the other person or the situation as the problem and so we don’t see the lesson that is there for us.
Lessons keep being repeated until we realise that the experience is teaching us something that we need to learn. This is a really important understanding.