It really is a big challenge for us to realise that we are having lessons. We keep focusing on the cause of the upset as outside of ourselves.
We can’t see the lesson because our thoughts and feelings are keeping us stuck in the belief that the other person or situation is so unfair. So the lesson keeps repeating.
We get caught in the reaction, the upset, the feelings of anger, hurt, fear, rejection and such.
We need to use our minds to think about what is going on inside of us so we can understand more and make conscious choices.
Living this understanding that lessons are teaching us rather than life being about other people or situations upsetting us, deeply changes our perspective and experience.