“You are not responsible for the programming you picked up in childhood.  However, as an adult, you are 100% responsible for fixing it.” Ken Keyes Jr.

This is a very interesting and helpful quote.  So much of our energy can be held in the past because we still feel caught in our early experiences.

The main reason we can get caught in the past is because we believe that we are wounded for always by our early experiences.  This is a belief worth thinking out and hopefully changing.

Most of us do have wounds from childhood that we need to heal and we can heal them.  We do need to acknowledge what was difficult for us so we can heal.  As an adult we can change how we look at our past.

We have a choice.

We can see our past as bad, unfair and wrong and leaving us wounded forever.  Or, we can see it as something we need to heal and then look at it from the perspective of how it has strengthened us.

Many would say we chose our parents and I would agree with this.  This can be a hard one to think possible for some but it is worth considering.

I really find it has helped me so much to understand that we are not victims – we are the authors of our lives.  Every choice we make can lift us up and move us forward or keep us caught in the past. Every thought we allow into our minds can lift us up and encourage us and create what we want in life. Or, our thoughts can drain us of energy, increase negativity and powerless and keep us creating what we don’t want in life.

So as children we absorbed a lot of faulty beliefs and attitudes but as an adult we have the choice and power to change these and choose the thoughts and attitudes that we want.

We are not responsible for what happened to us as a child but as an adult we need to free ourselves from imprisonment in past beliefs and attitudes so that we can discover and live our own truth. The truth that comes for the Soul within us.

It’s such an important one to become clear on.




Make a decision to live your life with purpose.  Purpose gives meaning, clarity and direction to your life.  You are clear about what life is about and what you want to direct your energies towards.

It’s so easy to get caught in the busy-ness of life and to have your energies going in all sorts of directions.

How do you get clear about your purpose?

It’s good to ask questions like what is life about?  What do I want to do with my life?  What do I see out there in the world that needs changing? What can I do to make a difference in our world?

There’s a lot of giving out and railing against things.  This keeps us feeling angry and powerless. And the more we do this the more negative energy we create within us and around us.  And nothing gets better.

When, instead we look at a problem and think about solutions to this we expand our consciousness – we discover potential and resources we were not even aware of.  In taking this attitude to problems we experience an increase in energy and in our power to solve.

Think about your gifts, about what you are good at and about what you love to do.  This takes time – most people aren’t aware of these because they don’t tend to think in terms of their giftedness and what they are good at.

This ground work is essential and until you do it you won’t have a clear idea of your purpose. You need to make time in your life for this and to come back to it a number of times to help you get clear.  You need to stop that negative voice in yourself that might get in your way, saying things like you don’t know or that this is too much work or you don’t have the time.  Don’t give your power away to that voice.

Approach all of this with excitement and enthusiasm – you are finding your way, on a path of discovery, opening up to more and more of who you are and what life is about.

Our world needs you and the part you are to play.

Truth and Illusion  


We have been caught up for so long in the illusion that we are just an ego, a personality, a physical body.  This has had us utterly concerned with what other people think of us, having the approval of others, preoccupied with the need to feel we matter, have importance, are special, are loved, making an impression, being seen by others as beautiful, being successful in the eyes of society – always our worth and lovableness are tied up with what we think others think of us – how we think we are rated by the world.

The truth is that what we think others think of us is a fickle thing, and is based on trying to judge what pleases or displeases the other person.  An impossible task and we are so fixed on it – often quite unconsciously.

It is all connected with conditional love – I love you if you please me, if I approve of you, if you measure up.

Why does it matter so much what others think of us?  Because we have an old belief that in order to survive we must “fit in”.  I must hide my truth so that I will “fit in”.

There is a deep fear of rejection, abandonment and so we strive to “fit in”, to be included.  The ego sees life this way because it lives in the illusion of separation.  And the belief in separation causes the fear.

The truth is that I can never be rejected because I am a Soul and a part of the whole – there is no separation.

From Soul’s perspective our concern is not whether we are loved or matter but that we love, that we care, that we are doing our part in the world and living our best life.  And as we give love we experience love and as we do our part in the world we receive and our cup is overflowing.  We rise up out of the illusion of limitation and fear and our whole vision of what life is about expands and flourishes.