How we interpret what another person says or does, how we interpret any situation, depends on our beliefs, the stories we tell ourselves. The stories we tell ourselves come from our beliefs.
We don’t see others or what happens, as they are – we see them through our attitudes, beliefs, expectations.
When you hold a belief such as I don’t get help or support then this is the story you tell yourself over and over without being particularly conscious of it. You expect this and you interpret your experiences through this belief. You look for this and you find it.
When you hold a belief such as “I am not good enough”, it colours everything in your life. You tell yourself over and over that you are not good enough. You expect others to think this of you and so you see this – you interpret things as letting you know this. You just seem to get more and more of it. You then decide that this is the truth – you are not good enough.
Think about other beliefs such as “life is hard”, “I have to work hard if I am going to be able to manage”, “I have got to stay in this job I hate because it’s all there is for me”, “there are very few jobs and serious lack of money”.
So you are focused on lack and hardship and powerlessness and you see more and more of it and this is what you experience.
Many people expect to be rejected or left out and so this is what they look for and see. Every experience they have seems to prove their belief, that they are on the outside, not included in some way.
We all work very hard to ensure we don’t get rejected, trying to please, to fit in and often, very often at the expense of being true to self and listening to inner wisdom and guidance.
Another story people tell themselves over and over is, how lonely they are and so this is what they experience, what they get. Life seems to prove to them that this is all that’s there for them.
The mind is powerful and everything starts in the mind.
If you want to change your experience you must start with changing your thinking, your beliefs, the stories that you find yourself repeating over and over.
Remember your beliefs, the stories that you tell yourself are colouring what you see all the time. They are like a lens you look through and you interpret what you see wearing these lenses.