Opening to the New

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“The world as we have created it is a process of our thinking. It cannot be changed without changing our thinking.”  Albert Einstein

Many of us are stuck in old thinking, old, unquestioned beliefs. Why do you think we fear the new, the different? Why do we close our minds? We might say in reply because you have to be careful. You don’t want to let anyone influence you in the wrong way. But sure this is happening all the time with the fear put out daily and repeatedly through the media, through various violent/abusive TV programmes and films and a lot of ads too – all these influence us and can have a strong power. We don’t question these.

I think new ideas, new ways of seeing things, bring us out of our comfort zone. We equate discomfort with wrong and so we reject the new as ridiculous, way out, mad. In our comfort zone we feel what we would call security.

We do need to learn to discern carefully. We also need to realise that we have inner wisdom and when we think about things and discern, we are using our inner wisdom and strengthening it.

It is really good for us to ask ourselves, in our journaling time, such questions as –

Why do I believe/trust in all that I do believe to be true?

Does it feel ok for me to look at this question and to realise my world won’t fall down around me?

Why do we go along with what the majority believe as if it’s truth simply because so many go along with it?

I remember some years ago, reading The Grand Design by Patrick Francis. I would read a small part and then say ok that’s enough for me to digest for today. It was so different to how I understood reality to be at that time.  I was drawn to it. It did touch some fear/insecurity because it was so different but I realised that I could open my mind to this and take in what was ok for me and leave what was not and do it at my own pace. It was expanding my understanding of life. This was the first of many books on the way and now I can say how truly grateful I am for all I have learned and am learning. I love and welcome the new, new ideas and understanding and all we have the opportunity to discover.

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Emotions

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Emotions, emotions, emotions! The world is, generally, emotionally polarised. Emotions get roused easily and we even think emotionally. Very often we are run by our feelings and at the mercy of our emotions.

Just take a listen to the news – so full of emotion, drama, trauma – and so, so many TV programmes also. Why do we immerse ourselves in all this anxst and aggression and fear? There’s such a pull to it and yet it increases turmoil in us. It certainly doesn’t increase feelings of peace and calm! Observe the effect of TV and news on you and think about this.

People, generally, are very caught in emotions – emotions are where we go when issues arise. It doesn’t have to be this way. Negative emotions drain us and, giving in to them, just increases the power of the negative emotions and feelings. It is not good to dump them on others or to suppress them either.

These are 7 tips for helping manage negative emotions:

  1. Remember everything that challenges you is a lesson and opportunity to grow. It’s teaching you exactly what you need to learn now. When you accept what has happened as yours to learn from, you stop reacting and you see what needs changing in you. The other person may be acting from negativity and the situation may be difficult, but you can only change you, not the other person. This is powerful.
  2. Remember when you get upset the cause of your upset is within you – caused by your thoughts, attitudes, interpretations. The other person or situation is the trigger but the cause of your upset is within you. This helps you to focus on what needs healing and adjusting within you.
  3. Acknowledge your negative emotions and try to trace back to the negative thoughts, attitudes, interpretations causing them.
  4. Journal under these 4 headings – What happened? How did you react? Why did it upset you? What was it teaching you? You are listening to your feelings , making space for you and using your mind to understand more.
  5. Understand that emotions are currents of energy and you have the power to change that energy from negative to positive, from destructive to constructive. Negative feelings and emotions pollute your energy field.
  6. Focus on changing the negative feeling to a positive emotion – a big ask you might say but try it out, practise this and see how it makes a difference. Change the fear, the anger, to joy. Think joy and do a dance around the room. Feel the energy of joy. Or think gratitude and do a dance of gratitude around the room focused on all you feel thankful for.  Feel gratitude.
  7. Claim and use the power in you to shift your attention from a negative focus to a positive, Spiritual one – from fear to love, joy, gratitude, trust and so forth. This takes determination and practice but you can do it.