Some years ago, I was reading “Grace and Grit” written by Ken Wilbur with his new wife, Treya, who had recently been diagnosed with stage 4 breast cancer.
I was struck so much by something Ken said in the book – that we need to say thank you for our challenges. Thank you for cancer, I thought? How could you bring yourself to think this let alone say this? It stayed there in the back of my mind and now I understand.
What helped me to understand was coming across Joshua Stone’s work and his teachings. He talks about how we are here to learn and grow, not to just get through life. This made big sense to me. Yes, life is a precious opportunity and all about learning and growing.
He explained that everything that happens is a lesson, a challenge and an opportunity. Things that upset us are important teachers for us. They are showing us what in us needs healing and clearing.
Say, for example, that I get upset by being behind a slow car. If I go with the upset and see the driver as a nuisance, getting stressed about it, I increase my upset. If, instead, I think lesson, challenge and opportunity, I think about what this is to teach me. It’s definitely teaching me to be patient and this is a very important lesson in life. It may also be teaching me to give myself more time to get to places so that I’m not rushing [a big cause of stress].
I feel more relaxed because I am not giving my power away to my feelings. I am using my mind to think about the situation. I am not a victim of the situation. I am taking charge and learning from my experience so that I don’t have to keep repeating this lesson.