Loving One’s Self

Most people believe that the only way to have more love is to get it from other people.  This is not how it works.

 

The most important relationship in your life is your relationship to yourself – if you don’t love yourself then this affects all your relationships.

 

Most of us have grown up believing that love of self is wrong, selfish, self-centred, and the right thing is to be trying to love other people and to forget about self.

 

However, if you don’t learn to love yourself then your need for love becomes central and you keep looking for this outside of self and trying to fulfil this need.

 

Only when you learn to love yourself will you be truly able to receive the love of others and your whole experience of loving others will be very different too.

 

 

Do I want to be right or to choose love?

 

Do I want to get back at the other and remain stuck in negativity and repeating the same old lessons or to choose to change myself and learn from the lesson – and increase love?

“In a controversy, the instant we feel anger we have already ceased striving for the truth and have begun striving for ourselves.” Buddha

We are here to seek truth and to grow in love – unconditional love – the love that means I love you no matter what.

Life is a great journey, a precious one, and we can experience it so differently when we seek to serve the Higher self and not the lower self.

 

Being true to your Self

 

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Being true to yourself is about listening to your inner guidance whilst also honouring and respecting others.

Many have believed that the way to discern what’s “right” in any given situation, is to check what other people think or what we have been taught to believe as if this understanding  comes from outside of us. Now, we certainly need to learn about life and inform ourselves but our sense of what’s right, or best – the sense of what is our best decision or choice at any given time – is something we know from inside.

Our lives are so busy and there is so much noise and little space to be still and to listen. As a result, many have no awareness of inner guidance. If we have a sense of what seems right for us, we tend to over look it, not trust it.  We look for advice rather than trust that inner knowing.

This is something that takes practice. We need to make space for it in our lives. Meditation is one way – sitting in stillness and focusing on your breath; connecting consciously with your Higher Self and asking for guidance generally or with a particular issue. As you hold this connection with your Higher self and your question, you will find understanding coming, solutions coming – maybe not immediately but they will come. You may not even be conscious of how you have been guided at first while you are new to this experience.

Journaling is another most important way of connecting with your Higher self and experiencing inner guidance. You need to ask your Higher Self to help you as you journal about an issue, a challenge, a lesson, something you want to understand better. Then write and, as you do, you will understand more. There is so much wisdom and guidance within you waiting for you to call on.

We build our inner wisdom essentially, by practising listening to inner guidance and by living what we learn, applying the wisdom we have learned.

Inner guidance is always positive and for our good, to help us to grow and improve. It is never negative or harming or giving us excuses not to do something that needs attending to. We always need to use our common sense too.

We are being guided all the time but now we need to become aware of it and work consciously with it so that we can find our way through life and live as a Soul and realise how much we have to contribute – each one of us.