Anger is a very interesting emotion to examine, to expand our knowledge about. I used to believe I wasn’t an angry person until I was training in psychotherapy and the director asked us one day, “How are you angry, How do you express your anger?” We were to reflect on this and write about it. I used to describe myself as a person who would get hurt. Now I realise hurt and anger are really part of the same emotion – like 2 sides of the one emotion. Some people experience hurt but aren’t aware of the anger behind the hurt. Others feel angry but aren’t aware of the hurt behind the anger.
As I wrote about anger I realised I expressed my anger as resentment and going silent, withdrawing.
It makes such a difference to realise when you are angry and to be able to acknowledge this and know it’s your own anger – not caused by anyone else, but caused by some belief, attitude interpretation or story you live by.
When we can recognise and acknowledge our own anger and don’t blame it on another or on an outside situation, we can begin to look at why we are reacting with anger and that truly deepens our understanding, not only of ourselves but of others too. Anger really stems from fear. We live as if we are a physical body, an ego and separate, under threat because I must ensure my own safety, I must be constantly on the alert ready for fight or flight. We are very disconnected from our true Self because we live on the outside constantly concerned with trying to fit in, be liked, be loved, be approved of, do the “right” thing, live up to what the world deems to be success – all fear-based.
Fear stems from the illusion that we are separate. In truth we are Souls, divine, and love and unity are the truth that we are all being shown in these times. All the world challenges are calling on us to work together for the greater good and where we act out of fear, only difficulties, hardship and wars ensue. Even take Brexit – that’s an act of fear and separation and the road is strewn with difficulties. We will discover wonderful, amazing solutions as we choose love, oneness and all of us working together for the greater good. One great effect of the Trump regime is the way people are standing up much more for what they believe and taking action, taking up their power to believe there is a better way.
We will also bring about complete destruction of our earth unless we work together for the greater good of our earth. If we work together to see how we are the cause of the problems of our earth, not only will we be more in harmony with one another and our earth in doing this but it will bring us to far, far better ways of living and sharing than we had ever believed possible. We in Ireland, must, for example, take very seriously how we can all work together, starting at community level, to reduce our carbon emissions now. It’s hard to see solutions now but if we work together and discern the way forward with Spirit, it will improve economies, increase jobs and businesses that serve the earth and generally improve life for all. We are all connected. We are all in this together.
More to come on anger in 2 weeks time.