The Power of Conscious Choice 2


The sky MB

You have a choice –

To forgive yourself for mistakes you made and choose to learn from them,


You can choose to never forgive yourself and remain feeling unlovable, unworthy, bad.

The truth is we are to learn from our mistakes, love and forgive ourselves and focus on how we can use our mistakes to become a better person and be of service in our world. A mistake is an opportunity to learn. Einstein said “Learn from the past, design the future and live in the now.”

You are not the mud [the negative ego]. You are the diamond [the Soul]. Don’t be a victim of your mistakes. Learn from them to be a better person.

You have the choice to blame and complain and feel dissatisfied and miserable, powerless


You have the choice to see what it is the experience has to teach you. For example, say you are complaining about the Government. A writer, Wattles said you get the govt you deserve. If you are constantly criticising them, you weaken them – better to pray for them and to do whatever you can do to improve situations. We tend to expect the Government to do everything rather than to see what we can do to help issues. Eco Eye said how the media creating victim drama about the flooding for instance, put pressure on the Government to go for a quick solution rather than take time to think out best solutions and call on the help of people instead of thinking it’s all up to them. So they jumped in and decided to build big concrete structures in the towns, damaging rivers badly and harming wildlife in doing so. In Pilkington in the UK, they attract a lot of tourism to their beautiful little town so they got the advice of experts and invited them to talk to the community. Result: they chose great solutions to the issue of flooding which served nature and the town and people. They worked on slowing the river down upstream which involved, among other actions, planting more trees. People getting involved and communities working together can do so much.

You have the choice to continue behaving, reacting in the same way in a relationship, seeing the other as the cause of your upset


You can choose to realise that when your buttons are pushed and you react in a relationship, this is your stuff coming up to the light to be cleared. The other is the trigger of your reaction but not the cause. They are most likely coming from negative ego themselves and have lessons to learn in the issue between you, but you need to focus on you and what you need to learn and not on the other.  Journal to help you to understand why you react in this way.  Focus on changing you and not on trying to change the other. This is one of the most important ways to build a healthy relationship.

You can choose to remain in suffering, believing your suffering is outer imposed, caused by others or by situations,


To take responsibility for yourself and what you experience. Examine your thoughts and the negative expectations you are entertaining.

Making conscious choices does take effort and practice. The way of least resistance is to stay doing what you have always done, but this will always get you the same result – what you don’t want.





Some Thoughts on Discipline


Discipline is regarded as a bad word. Most think of it as heavy, burdensome and reject it, thinking I’m just not a disciplined type of person.

Discipline means ordered activity and ordered activity brings structure and rhythm to our day. Look at nature – we depend on the ordered activity of nature – the sun setting, the moon rising, the tides ebbing and flowing, the seasons and so forth.

Discipline is a power we all have, yes, some more than others, but it is something we all need to develop and improve on.

Discipline is increased by choosing a goal to work to and sticking to it, never giving up. If you fall down, you love and forgive yourself, pick yourself up and start over.  You never give yourself a hard time – this leaves you feeling unlovable, unworthy, no good and does not encourage you to keep seeking to improve.

You might decide to be vigilant about your habit of judging others or speaking when it would be better to not speak, or you might want to reduce or cut out coffee, sugar, cigarettes or such. This builds discipline and a strong will.

Discipline is also developed by making a decision you will get up earlier so you can have quiet time to journal and meditate and prepare for the day ahead.

Discipline is developed by deciding how much screen time you will allow yourself and sticking to this.

Discipline is developed by getting to bed and to sleep by a certain time each night so that you are ready to rise at your planned time in the morning.

You develop discipline by deciding you will take a walk every day, by aiming to drink at least 1.5 litres of water every day, starting with 2 glasses at least half an hour before breakfast, and such routines.

Discipline makes much more possible for you to fit into your day.  It has you in charge of yourself and more focused. There are so many benefits to discipline. Remember it is ordered activity – not a heavy burden but, a quality that enhances your experience of life.


The Power of Conscious Choice

Purple flowers Janet


You have a choice –


You can choose to get all worried and anxious about something


to remain calm, pray, use your power to think and ask your Higher Self and Spirit to help you to find the best solution.

It’s just a habit, automatic reaction, to get anxious and to worry. Worry is negative affirmation and focus on what you don’t want. When I find myself getting pulled into worry, I smile and say to myself, Gill, is this what you want? I reply no and state what I really do want and choose to focus on this.

We are so caught, unconsciously, in negative expectations and if we keep holding negative expectations and focus, this is what we get, what we attract. I cannot emphasise this enough.

We have a choice to stay in negative expectation and focus


to replace the negative expectation with a positive one.

This all about the power of the mind to create the reality we want.


You have the choice to hold a grudge and to not forgive and carry this negative energy around in your aura where it is draining you, keeping you in this negative energy and causing you to attract more and more of this negative energy


you can choose to forgive and to see the lesson and challenge as coming to you to help you to learn something that will help you to move forward on your Spiritual path. See the lesson and challenge as exactly what you need to learn now. It’s not a bummer or wrong or a nuisance – no matter how small – it’s exactly what you need. The lessons that come to you help to expand your consciousness and to clear and heal faulty patterns that are getting in your way.

Realise that if you see the lesson and challenge as right for you, you can change your experience. If you continue to blame others and situations, then you continue to repeat the same old lessons and stay a victim.  Yes, the other is usually coming from their negative ego but do you want to catch the dis-ease or to learn, grow and heal? If you choose the latter, you choose to grow into Soul consciousness and not to give your power away to the ego and the faulty desires of ego.


You have the choice to own your personal power


to be powerless and caught in being a victim.

In every situation, you have this choice. We have never been educated in this and it’s an essential lesson on the Spiritual path. This is not about being angry, dominating, controlling, besting another or getting your own way. It’s much more than being assertive.

Personal power is more about having the courage to be true to your Self – not the ego but your Soul. This is about intuition, having a sense of your inner guidance and checking this out with your reason – knowing that your intuition will only guide you to good and to higher.

Developing Personal Power is the first lesson on the Spiritual path. There’s a chapter on this in my book “Journaling and the Journey within”, but it’s so important, I will devote a Newsletter to it in next few weeks.

Meantime, when you think you have given away your power, journal about it so that you understand why, what was going on for you. This way you are listening to yourself and learning to understand what personal power means.


Some Thoughts about Order


Perhaps some find routine, order and structure boring because of the desire for distraction from the daily routines of school, work, getting up, cooking, shopping, and so forth.

We can perceive routine as dampening, uninteresting, not valuable or important and such. It’s worth journaling on this to discover what your attitude is to routine and the story you tell yourself about routine and structure.

Routine can save us a lot of time. If I put my car keys, the scissors, in a definite place always, then finding them when I need them is a cinch. If I charge my phone in the same place at the same time every day, then I don’t suddenly run out of battery! If I have definite times I drink water such as before breakfast, then I remember to take it and reap all the benefits of this important habit.

So often we’re resisting what will help us so much and reduce stress, because of faulty beliefs, attitudes, stories we tell ourselves. We go with emotion, what we feel like and desire rather than use our power to think and to make conscious choices and aspire to more.

Order, structure, rhythm, discipline  – these are key qualities we need to build now in developing our consciousness. Without these we just drift along, often experiencing overwhelm and wasting a lot of time.