Never Give up

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If you run up against problems, difficulties, resistance as you are trying to create more structure, order and discipline– write about these in your journal. Take time to listen to what’s going on for you.

Never give yourself a hard time and allow disappointment. These faulty habits take away your motivation and power. In this you are giving your power away to your critical inner parent who just leaves you feeling unworthy, unlovable, bad, a failure.

It’s all about practice and allowing yourself to learn. We learn through making mistakes and writing about them so we understand what happened and gain the golden nugget of wisdom there is to learn from the mistake.

Each one of us needs to build discipline and we all have this quality latent within us but we must claim it, practise it and visualise ourselves living it. Remember discipline is ordered activity, not a noose around your neck or a harsh authority figure ordering you about the place.

Choose to build discipline for yourself, not out of duty or trying to be perfect. Sell the idea to yourself by focusing on how it will benefit you and others around you. It’s a way of loving yourself – taking steps that lessen stress and have you more at the helm of your ship.

Never give up. What really builds your power, discipline and determination, is to pick yourself up, and start over. Never give up on yourself.

“Never give up.” I have found those words, which are up on my bathroom wall, really help me to stay connected to what I want to achieve and why. They keep me connected to my strength.

Remember, in order to keep focused on a goal you need to have a clear purpose. Write about why you want to make this change, this improvement. Why is it important to you?

Write about how it will benefit you and your experience of life. Sell the idea to yourself.

Never give up. Don’t allow a sense of deprivation, the missing of whatever it may be such as lying on an extra half hour, whatever you are letting go of in your diet, and such. Focus on the benefits and why you want to make these changes. This will strengthen your resolve.

 

 

 

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Personal Power

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Personal power is essential to psychological and spiritual health.  It’s a quality latent within all of us but we need to claim it and use it and use it for good. When I first heard of personal power I had no clear idea of what it meant. I had heard of assertiveness but it’s very different to this, and to anger. It really is more about taking charge of your life, taking responsibility for yourself and what you experience. Taking on personal power means the end of victim consciousness and blame.

It’s about choosing the thoughts you allow into your mind and the thoughts you don’t allow. It’s about using your power to think and to take charge of all your energies and use them only in service of love.  It’s about managing your emotions and not allowing them to run you.

Thoughts and words are powerful. They create – what you do want or what you don’t want, depending on the thoughts you hold in your mind. Use your personal power to push out of your mind any negative thoughts that arise and to replace them with positive, spiritual thoughts, Become aware and conscious of what you expect and affirm and choose what you really want. Don’t unconsciously go with what you fear.

Personal power is about being the cause of our reality. Our thoughts create our reality. While we can’t control many situations, we can certainly control how we perceive them and the way we respond to them.

When I first learned about personal power I became aware of how I had been missing it in my life and what a difference it could make to my life. I had learned through my training in psychotherapy what a fearful person I was but I didn’t know how to change this. I had always thought of myself as shy. I realised then that shyness was fear and I could change this. Personal power helped me to see I could be in charge of myself and needed to be. I could choose to move out of my comfort zone.

Personal Power is the power within you to make conscious choices.

It is about claiming and using the power that is in you to live your best life, give of your best and do your part.

It’s about being alive and living fully.

It’s about direction, discipline, courage, motivation, determination, focus, decisiveness.

Power can be used for good or evil and so we need to be sure to always use it in service of love.

“The sole advantage of power is that you can do more good.” Baltasar Gracian

We have given our power away to an external code of fear and don’t realise that we have an inner compass, our Soul, our Higher Self, always guiding us from within. Most people have never even heard of this though many have heard of “the still small voice within”.  Many hearing this idea now, would say well I don’t hear this guidance. Our lives are too busy and focused on outside matters. You need to make space in your life, quiet time, to hear this guidance. You need to make time to meditate and journal and ask the help of your Higher Self, not just when you are troubled, but every day. You need to work on building this relationship so that you become very aware of this guidance and learn to live by it. This is what it means to be true to your Self.

As a result of the hold of fear on us, we give our power away in very many ways.

 

The Rewards of an Ordered Life

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Discipline strengthens you and is an essential part of developing personal power and putting order and structure into your life.

Many believe it’s the opposite of freedom. In fact the truth is that discipline, order and structure give you more freedom. They free up time that is wasted in being stressed, lack of planning and organisation and discipline, and feeling pulled in all directions.

People frequently experience overwhelm because of a lack of order and structure in life. When you are feeling stressed by too much happening, too many demands and that sense of too little time – stop. Don’t allow this suffering to continue.

Make some quiet time to reflect on why you are having this experience of overwhelm. Sit with your journal and ask your Higher Self and Spirit to help you to understand the cause of overwhelm and to discover solutions. Take charge and use your power to think.

In life there are many repetitive daily tasks and commitments.  Order, structure, discipline and planning make it much less hassle to manage these and the reward is you feel in charge of your day, your life, rather than having your energies all over the place.

When you decide that you are going to put more order into your life, you begin to see where and how it will make a difference to your experience. You need to be patient with yourself and to be ready to make adjustments according to what you discover as you work at it.

Use your journal to note down what you will focus on first. You might decide that the first change you will make is to get up maybe half an hour earlier so that you create a quiet space for you to start making a plan for your day so you are prepared.

Then you might add to this space by choosing as well as taking time to plan, that you will meditate for 3 of those days for 10 to 15 minutes and to journal for 4 days. This way you are increasing your sense of quiet and the wonder of silence and the effectiveness of listening to what’s really going on for you and tuning in to your Higher Self and inner guidance.

You need to be persistent and choose to be excited by this project rather than heavy – don’t allow any space to that critical inner parent voice. Focus on victories and on what you want to improve and how you will go about improving.

Don’t put it off. Decide that you will start today.  You might start by journaling and writing down how you desire to have more order and structure in your life and to build discipline. Write about how it will benefit you. Be strong and determined, and visualise yourself organised and feeling good. Remember it takes practice and never giving up.

 

 

The Power of Conscious Choice 2

 

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You have a choice –

To forgive yourself for mistakes you made and choose to learn from them,

OR

You can choose to never forgive yourself and remain feeling unlovable, unworthy, bad.

The truth is we are to learn from our mistakes, love and forgive ourselves and focus on how we can use our mistakes to become a better person and be of service in our world. A mistake is an opportunity to learn. Einstein said “Learn from the past, design the future and live in the now.”

You are not the mud [the negative ego]. You are the diamond [the Soul]. Don’t be a victim of your mistakes. Learn from them to be a better person.

You have the choice to blame and complain and feel dissatisfied and miserable, powerless

OR

You have the choice to see what it is the experience has to teach you. For example, say you are complaining about the Government. A writer, Wattles said you get the govt you deserve. If you are constantly criticising them, you weaken them – better to pray for them and to do whatever you can do to improve situations. We tend to expect the Government to do everything rather than to see what we can do to help issues. Eco Eye said how the media creating victim drama about the flooding for instance, put pressure on the Government to go for a quick solution rather than take time to think out best solutions and call on the help of people instead of thinking it’s all up to them. So they jumped in and decided to build big concrete structures in the towns, damaging rivers badly and harming wildlife in doing so. In Pilkington in the UK, they attract a lot of tourism to their beautiful little town so they got the advice of experts and invited them to talk to the community. Result: they chose great solutions to the issue of flooding which served nature and the town and people. They worked on slowing the river down upstream which involved, among other actions, planting more trees. People getting involved and communities working together can do so much.

You have the choice to continue behaving, reacting in the same way in a relationship, seeing the other as the cause of your upset

OR

You can choose to realise that when your buttons are pushed and you react in a relationship, this is your stuff coming up to the light to be cleared. The other is the trigger of your reaction but not the cause. They are most likely coming from negative ego themselves and have lessons to learn in the issue between you, but you need to focus on you and what you need to learn and not on the other.  Journal to help you to understand why you react in this way.  Focus on changing you and not on trying to change the other. This is one of the most important ways to build a healthy relationship.

You can choose to remain in suffering, believing your suffering is outer imposed, caused by others or by situations,

OR

To take responsibility for yourself and what you experience. Examine your thoughts and the negative expectations you are entertaining.

Making conscious choices does take effort and practice. The way of least resistance is to stay doing what you have always done, but this will always get you the same result – what you don’t want.

 

 

 

Some Thoughts on Discipline

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Discipline is regarded as a bad word. Most think of it as heavy, burdensome and reject it, thinking I’m just not a disciplined type of person.

Discipline means ordered activity and ordered activity brings structure and rhythm to our day. Look at nature – we depend on the ordered activity of nature – the sun setting, the moon rising, the tides ebbing and flowing, the seasons and so forth.

Discipline is a power we all have, yes, some more than others, but it is something we all need to develop and improve on.

Discipline is increased by choosing a goal to work to and sticking to it, never giving up. If you fall down, you love and forgive yourself, pick yourself up and start over.  You never give yourself a hard time – this leaves you feeling unlovable, unworthy, no good and does not encourage you to keep seeking to improve.

You might decide to be vigilant about your habit of judging others or speaking when it would be better to not speak, or you might want to reduce or cut out coffee, sugar, cigarettes or such. This builds discipline and a strong will.

Discipline is also developed by making a decision you will get up earlier so you can have quiet time to journal and meditate and prepare for the day ahead.

Discipline is developed by deciding how much screen time you will allow yourself and sticking to this.

Discipline is developed by getting to bed and to sleep by a certain time each night so that you are ready to rise at your planned time in the morning.

You develop discipline by deciding you will take a walk every day, by aiming to drink at least 1.5 litres of water every day, starting with 2 glasses at least half an hour before breakfast, and such routines.

Discipline makes much more possible for you to fit into your day.  It has you in charge of yourself and more focused. There are so many benefits to discipline. Remember it is ordered activity – not a heavy burden but, a quality that enhances your experience of life.

 

The Power of Conscious Choice

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You have a choice –

 

You can choose to get all worried and anxious about something

OR

to remain calm, pray, use your power to think and ask your Higher Self and Spirit to help you to find the best solution.

It’s just a habit, automatic reaction, to get anxious and to worry. Worry is negative affirmation and focus on what you don’t want. When I find myself getting pulled into worry, I smile and say to myself, Gill, is this what you want? I reply no and state what I really do want and choose to focus on this.

We are so caught, unconsciously, in negative expectations and if we keep holding negative expectations and focus, this is what we get, what we attract. I cannot emphasise this enough.

We have a choice to stay in negative expectation and focus

OR

to replace the negative expectation with a positive one.

This all about the power of the mind to create the reality we want.

 

You have the choice to hold a grudge and to not forgive and carry this negative energy around in your aura where it is draining you, keeping you in this negative energy and causing you to attract more and more of this negative energy

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you can choose to forgive and to see the lesson and challenge as coming to you to help you to learn something that will help you to move forward on your Spiritual path. See the lesson and challenge as exactly what you need to learn now. It’s not a bummer or wrong or a nuisance – no matter how small – it’s exactly what you need. The lessons that come to you help to expand your consciousness and to clear and heal faulty patterns that are getting in your way.

Realise that if you see the lesson and challenge as right for you, you can change your experience. If you continue to blame others and situations, then you continue to repeat the same old lessons and stay a victim.  Yes, the other is usually coming from their negative ego but do you want to catch the dis-ease or to learn, grow and heal? If you choose the latter, you choose to grow into Soul consciousness and not to give your power away to the ego and the faulty desires of ego.

 

You have the choice to own your personal power

OR

to be powerless and caught in being a victim.

In every situation, you have this choice. We have never been educated in this and it’s an essential lesson on the Spiritual path. This is not about being angry, dominating, controlling, besting another or getting your own way. It’s much more than being assertive.

Personal power is more about having the courage to be true to your Self – not the ego but your Soul. This is about intuition, having a sense of your inner guidance and checking this out with your reason – knowing that your intuition will only guide you to good and to higher.

Developing Personal Power is the first lesson on the Spiritual path. There’s a chapter on this in my book “Journaling and the Journey within”, but it’s so important, I will devote a Newsletter to it in next few weeks.

Meantime, when you think you have given away your power, journal about it so that you understand why, what was going on for you. This way you are listening to yourself and learning to understand what personal power means.

 

Some Thoughts about Order

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Perhaps some find routine, order and structure boring because of the desire for distraction from the daily routines of school, work, getting up, cooking, shopping, and so forth.

We can perceive routine as dampening, uninteresting, not valuable or important and such. It’s worth journaling on this to discover what your attitude is to routine and the story you tell yourself about routine and structure.

Routine can save us a lot of time. If I put my car keys, the scissors, in a definite place always, then finding them when I need them is a cinch. If I charge my phone in the same place at the same time every day, then I don’t suddenly run out of battery! If I have definite times I drink water such as before breakfast, then I remember to take it and reap all the benefits of this important habit.

So often we’re resisting what will help us so much and reduce stress, because of faulty beliefs, attitudes, stories we tell ourselves. We go with emotion, what we feel like and desire rather than use our power to think and to make conscious choices and aspire to more.

Order, structure, rhythm, discipline  – these are key qualities we need to build now in developing our consciousness. Without these we just drift along, often experiencing overwhelm and wasting a lot of time.