Personal Power

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Personal power is essential to psychological and spiritual health.  It’s a quality latent within all of us but we need to claim it and use it and use it for good. When I first heard of personal power I had no clear idea of what it meant. I had heard of assertiveness but it’s very different to this, and to anger. It really is more about taking charge of your life, taking responsibility for yourself and what you experience. Taking on personal power means the end of victim consciousness and blame.

It’s about choosing the thoughts you allow into your mind and the thoughts you don’t allow. It’s about using your power to think and to take charge of all your energies and use them only in service of love.  It’s about managing your emotions and not allowing them to run you.

Thoughts and words are powerful. They create – what you do want or what you don’t want, depending on the thoughts you hold in your mind. Use your personal power to push out of your mind any negative thoughts that arise and to replace them with positive, spiritual thoughts, Become aware and conscious of what you expect and affirm and choose what you really want. Don’t unconsciously go with what you fear.

Personal power is about being the cause of our reality. Our thoughts create our reality. While we can’t control many situations, we can certainly control how we perceive them and the way we respond to them.

When I first learned about personal power I became aware of how I had been missing it in my life and what a difference it could make to my life. I had learned through my training in psychotherapy what a fearful person I was but I didn’t know how to change this. I had always thought of myself as shy. I realised then that shyness was fear and I could change this. Personal power helped me to see I could be in charge of myself and needed to be. I could choose to move out of my comfort zone.

Personal Power is the power within you to make conscious choices.

It is about claiming and using the power that is in you to live your best life, give of your best and do your part.

It’s about being alive and living fully.

It’s about direction, discipline, courage, motivation, determination, focus, decisiveness.

Power can be used for good or evil and so we need to be sure to always use it in service of love.

“The sole advantage of power is that you can do more good.” Baltasar Gracian

We have given our power away to an external code of fear and don’t realise that we have an inner compass, our Soul, our Higher Self, always guiding us from within. Most people have never even heard of this though many have heard of “the still small voice within”.  Many hearing this idea now, would say well I don’t hear this guidance. Our lives are too busy and focused on outside matters. You need to make space in your life, quiet time, to hear this guidance. You need to make time to meditate and journal and ask the help of your Higher Self, not just when you are troubled, but every day. You need to work on building this relationship so that you become very aware of this guidance and learn to live by it. This is what it means to be true to your Self.

As a result of the hold of fear on us, we give our power away in very many ways.

 

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Making a Choice

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There is a way of thinking that will keep you in inner conflict, suffering, anxious, experiencing lack, repeating tough lessons – and –

There is a way of thinking that will have you experience more love, peace, joy, harmony, abundance and all that you long for.

We have a choice.

Most of the time we are living unconsciously in a state of inner conflict, anxious, focused on lack and anticipating troubles. We are listening to the voice of the ego, separation and fear.  We are living outside of self, trying to manage life – asleep, unaware.

It’s in making that journey within that we discover truth and all the power, love and wisdom that is within us. We connect with our true selves, with the Soul.

The ego tells you to be afraid and that things are not the best.

Every day we need to practise thinking in new ways – realising how different it is to see what happens from the ego’s perspective and from the Soul’s perspective. Using our power to think and not giving our power away to our emotions. When we are caught in an emotion we are unclear and stressed. When we calm ourselves and sit and think, we find solutions. We are in charge of our energies and what we experience.

Every time you replace a negative thought with a spiritual positive one you are replacing the old faulty thinking and experiencing how this benefits you. Your mind and heart open up, your world opens up, your mind is renewed. You are enlightened.

Every time you refuse to express a negative emotion and instead transmute it by focusing on, for instance, love or harmony or joy, you are building these Soul Powers and making them stronger in your consciousness so that it becomes easier and easier to feel the beauty and to feel uplifted by these. You begin to enjoy these feelings so much that you realise how much you don’t want to experience the negative emotions. You realise how much the negative emotions create chaos and jagged energy in your field and why would you choose this very unpleasant experience when you could choose love, harmony, joy, peace, gratitude – all that you long for.

When you choose to think before you speak, to respond rather than react, to think carefully about your motives and to always practise self enquiry, you are mastering your energies in service of love. You are taking charge of your energies rather than allowing them to run you.

And every bit of work you do to master your energies in service of love and to choose to live in Soul consciousness, makes a difference to the whole of humanity. You are being of service in our world and increasing these energies in our world.

Truth

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Truth is something we discern from within.  As we develop a relationship with our Soul, our Higher Self, we become much clearer as to what is truth for us at this time [though always being open to more learning and expanding our understanding of truth].

What we discard as truth at one particular time in our lives we may well see differently at another time.

Very often our ego discards what we hear because it brings up fear or is too different. Always be ready to think about why you are saying no to something. Writing about it in your journal can really clarify things for you.

An open mind is so important now because we are mostly so stuck in old ideas, old thinking, old ways, that no longer serve us. It’s just the pull of that comfort zone and dislike of change and difference.

An open mind and discernment and a strong relationship with your Higher Self will help you greatly to discern between ego’s dismissal and the knowing which results from your deepening connection with the inner guidance of your Higher Self.

 

Silence

 

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Silence truly is golden. It is nourishing. It is essential. In the silence we can connect, centre, listen. In the silence we can begin to hear that “still small voice” within – the voice of Spirit, of our Soul.

So many think they should be socialising, generally in company and chatting.  They think this is the right way to be – there’s something wrong with you if you want time on your own, if you want to go to bed early, or have a quiet night at home on your own, or don’t want to go to a particular social event or not drink alcohol.

Spending time with others, being in relationship, is very important but, so too, is time alone. It’s all about balance. It’s also about learning to be true to yourself and not going with the crowd – feeling wrong if you think differently.

So much of life can be filled with distractions. So much of life can be numbing out.  We waste a lot of time.

In the silence we can begin to hear that “still small voice” of our Soul speaking to us, loving us, guiding us. This is our compass in life. This is where we need to be checking in – not with what others think or what the world tells us is important if you want to fit in, be cool, be liked.

Take time to sit in silence. Feel the stillness.

Take time to sit and quiet your mind. Slow down. Breathe. Become conscious of the inner you.

Light a candle and sit in silence, stillness, peace.

Find time in your day to play some uplifting music and feel the vibrations of the music touch your Soul.

Take time to be in Nature – walking, gardening, or just being out in Nature, connecting with the beauty, the wonder of our earth and world.

Make space in your day, in your life, to be still, to listen, to connect. “Who looks outside, dreams. Who looks within, awakens.” Carl Jung

 

Living Your Day

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What I do with my life, with my time here, really matters. Life is a precious opportunity and the only thing we take with us when we leave is our Spiritual growth.

Some people experience having too much to do in a day – the day isn’t long enough. Others would say that they have nothing to get up for. We can change these experiences and live a full, ordered and meaningful life.

Just as the Universe is based on order and rhythm – which we rely on – so we need to have order in the way we live our life. Structure, Order, Rhythm, Discipline – these are essential to life. Without these we just drift along, often experiencing overwhelm and wasting a lot of time.

When we work to develop these qualities we use time efficiently, we become much more organised and so we have more time available to us.

Discipline is a word many don’t like and many would say they are not the discipline type. But discipline is something you build, you develop, and it’s essential to progressing and growing. We need it and we all have the ability to develop it.

Discipline is ordered activity – it’s you choosing to set up order and routines in your life so that you have a sense of the overall structure of your day. People can see routine as boring but routine means you fit in so much more and experience a lot more efficiency. You don’t waste time over and over as a result of forgetting, or losing stuff or your energy being scattered. Living your day – structure, order, rhythm

 

 

Every day we need time to be still and to connect with our Soul, with Spirit in meditation. Every day we need time to journal so that we understand more and can use our minds to manage our emotions [rather than be run by them] and to resolve issues. Every day we need time to focus on lofty, uplifting, inspiring thoughts and ideas. These need to be the foundation of our day, our sustenance giving us the focus we need to live our day and keep growing in love.

These need to be part of our daily structure and will make all the difference. It can seem at first like an impossibility to fit all of this in but if you realise its importance and are prepared to schedule these in [giving yourself time to work out a routine and yet also being firm], you will do it.

“He is able who thinks he is able.” Buddha

 

Truth and Illusion  

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We have been caught up for so long in the illusion that we are just an ego, a personality, a physical body.  This has had us utterly concerned with what other people think of us, having the approval of others, preoccupied with the need to feel we matter, have importance, are special, are loved, making an impression, being seen by others as beautiful, being successful in the eyes of society – always our worth and lovableness are tied up with what we think others think of us – how we think we are rated by the world.

The truth is that what we think others think of us is a fickle thing, and is based on trying to judge what pleases or displeases the other person.  An impossible task and we are so fixed on it – often quite unconsciously.

It is all connected with conditional love – I love you if you please me, if I approve of you, if you measure up.

Why does it matter so much what others think of us?  Because we have an old belief that in order to survive we must “fit in”.  I must hide my truth so that I will “fit in”.

There is a deep fear of rejection, abandonment and so we strive to “fit in”, to be included.  The ego sees life this way because it lives in the illusion of separation.  And the belief in separation causes the fear.

The truth is that I can never be rejected because I am a Soul and a part of the whole – there is no separation.

From Soul’s perspective our concern is not whether we are loved or matter but that we love, that we care, that we are doing our part in the world and living our best life.  And as we give love we experience love and as we do our part in the world we receive and our cup is overflowing.  We rise up out of the illusion of limitation and fear and our whole vision of what life is about expands and flourishes.

Nourishing Your Spirit and Connecting with Truth

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Our purpose is firstly so much about awakening to Spirit within us and learning to think, feel and act from the consciousness of Soul and Spirit.

Meditation is one very important way of learning to still our physical, emotional and mental bodies so that we can listen to the “still small voice within”.

When we meditate at the same time and in the same place every day, we are working with the rhythm of the Universe and this greatly enhances our meditation.

When we stop and still ourselves and focus on our breath for even 10 minutes in the morning, we are connecting with Spirit.

It does take time and commitment to reap the benefits of daily meditation but this will deeply nourish your Spirit and connect you with truth.