Some Thoughts on Discipline

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Discipline is regarded as a bad word. Most think of it as heavy, burdensome and reject it, thinking I’m just not a disciplined type of person.

Discipline means ordered activity and ordered activity brings structure and rhythm to our day. Look at nature – we depend on the ordered activity of nature – the sun setting, the moon rising, the tides ebbing and flowing, the seasons and so forth.

Discipline is a power we all have, yes, some more than others, but it is something we all need to develop and improve on.

Discipline is increased by choosing a goal to work to and sticking to it, never giving up. If you fall down, you love and forgive yourself, pick yourself up and start over.  You never give yourself a hard time – this leaves you feeling unlovable, unworthy, no good and does not encourage you to keep seeking to improve.

You might decide to be vigilant about your habit of judging others or speaking when it would be better to not speak, or you might want to reduce or cut out coffee, sugar, cigarettes or such. This builds discipline and a strong will.

Discipline is also developed by making a decision you will get up earlier so you can have quiet time to journal and meditate and prepare for the day ahead.

Discipline is developed by deciding how much screen time you will allow yourself and sticking to this.

Discipline is developed by getting to bed and to sleep by a certain time each night so that you are ready to rise at your planned time in the morning.

You develop discipline by deciding you will take a walk every day, by aiming to drink at least 1.5 litres of water every day, starting with 2 glasses at least half an hour before breakfast, and such routines.

Discipline makes much more possible for you to fit into your day.  It has you in charge of yourself and more focused. There are so many benefits to discipline. Remember it is ordered activity – not a heavy burden but, a quality that enhances your experience of life.

 

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Some Thoughts about Order

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Perhaps some find routine, order and structure boring because of the desire for distraction from the daily routines of school, work, getting up, cooking, shopping, and so forth.

We can perceive routine as dampening, uninteresting, not valuable or important and such. It’s worth journaling on this to discover what your attitude is to routine and the story you tell yourself about routine and structure.

Routine can save us a lot of time. If I put my car keys, the scissors, in a definite place always, then finding them when I need them is a cinch. If I charge my phone in the same place at the same time every day, then I don’t suddenly run out of battery! If I have definite times I drink water such as before breakfast, then I remember to take it and reap all the benefits of this important habit.

So often we’re resisting what will help us so much and reduce stress, because of faulty beliefs, attitudes, stories we tell ourselves. We go with emotion, what we feel like and desire rather than use our power to think and to make conscious choices and aspire to more.

Order, structure, rhythm, discipline  – these are key qualities we need to build now in developing our consciousness. Without these we just drift along, often experiencing overwhelm and wasting a lot of time.

Life is unfolding for our Good

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When something happens to upset us we react emotionally. If, instead, you calm your emotions and sit with your Higher Self and Spirit and take time to think about what has happened, you see solutions. You are in charge.

Adopt the attitude that everything is a challenge and opportunity and life is unfolding for your good. This is very different to our learned attitude to fear what happens, to anticipate troubles, our focus on expecting problems.

When lessons come they are showing us how we are out of balance, off track, and if we use our power to think and seek to learn from them, we realise how we are out of balance and then we can make the needed adjustments so that we don’t need that lesson again.

Now, we can know these things – the key is to apply them, to live them and this takes discernment, using our power to think, effort, journaling, meditating, making daily silent time, and very often this is where we fall down and let things slide.

We need order, structure in our daily life. We need to create a daily silent hour for ourselves, a time to meditate, journal, understand more, read uplifting spiritual work that stretches us, learn to understand how we can apply all the wisdom we are learning.

The Magic of Order

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In one of the Journaling groups we have been focusing on order, looking at and aiming to understand it more.

We are asking ourselves questions such as –

What are the benefits of order as you see it?

Where are you ordered in your life and where do you find it difficult to be ordered?

In the areas where you find it difficult to be ordered, why do you think this is?

Do this exercise for yourself now and see what you learn from it.

For so many of us, a lot of the time, we have an experience of being a bit all over the place, pulled from one thing to another. There is a sense of “not enough time”, stress, lack of time for what we want to do. Fragmentation. This is very draining and can lead to feeling exhausted.

Some of the big benefits of order, as I experience it, are that I make much better use of my time and time expands – I have more of it, more time is available to me. And I find time to fit in what I want to fit in. I am no longer battling with time, as if there is not enough time. Order greatly reduces our experience of stress.

When you want to fit in something new, extra, to your day it can seem impossible – until you make a choice, schedule in the time you will do it and do it. It is amazing how it will slot into your day. In the beginning you might forget or put it off at times but if you stay determined and disciplined and choose never to give up, you will achieve it and benefit. You will learn so much about how you can order your day and fit in things you just didn’t believe you could. How you can manage time rather than feeling a victim of it.

Often fitting in something new means sacrificing something else such as extra time in bed. I can honestly say that the best way to start your day is with a silent hour when you meditate, journal, plan for the day and maybe even manage to read something spiritual and uplifting. This prepares you, centres you, connects you with yourself and your Soul, your guiding force and has you awake and in charge of your day.  Compare this with an extra hour in bed, fighting getting up – this is often a time when fear/anxiety thoughts and feelings get started and you are left not feeling in charge of your day.

Small examples of order would be that I charge my phone at the same time every day and in the same place; that I leave my keys in the same place each time I have finished using them; that I put the scissors back in their place after using them.

Then there is the bigger picture – getting up at a particular time and sticking to it, having a plan for the day, having a list of what needs to be attended to and allocating time to these, having a general sense of structure in your life – a time to meditate, to journal, to walk in nature, a plan for meals, for work. Order, routine, structure, planning, goals – are all part of it and all lead to having an experience of rhythm in your life

The key, spiritually, is to be both structured and organised and yet, totally flexible.

Living a more structured Life

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We need to use our time here wisely and efficiently. We need to be consistently adding to life, taking initiative to grow and discover more, to deepen our understanding. Life is a precious opportunity.

Life is so full of distractions and noise and we seek them out as if we need them. This has just become an unquestioned habit. It’s great to ask yourself do I really need the radio on – the content may be interesting me but is this the best use of my time now? Noise and distractions rob us of the sense of space and time. When you’re tempted to turn on the TV and flop down in front of it, ask yourself is this really relaxing me. What else could I do with this time? Allow your mind to reflect on this.

We need time to be still, to be silent, to reflect.

Just think each of us has 168 hours to fill in the week.

What do we do with this? How do you use your time? What are the distractions in your life? What are the time wasters?

Journaling Exercise:

If you were to divide your day like a pie what gets attention and how much attention? What gets left out generally or almost completely?

What are the time wasters?

What changes would you like to make to this pie?

What do you want to include in the time available to you in each day, in the week?

To include something more you very often have to sacrifice something – what might this be for you?

What surprised you as you did this exercise?

Watch that victim feeling that might arise – a sense of not having any choice, the feeling that this is all too much. Don’t give into that.

Look at what you have written and ask your Higher Self and Spirit to enlighten you as to what will help you to have more order and structure and how you will fit in time to be quiet and still, meditate and journal and plan. Generate personal power and feel strong.

“He is able who thinks he is able.” Buddha

 

 

 

 

 

 

Creating more structure

 

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More order and structure in your life will improve the quality of your life and you will have time to fit in quiet reflective time for you.

Deciding what time you will go to bed and what time you will get up is an important part of bringing more structure into your life. It’s all too easy to sit on in front of the TV flicking from one channel to another or continuing to watch some programme even though it’s not of real interest to you.

You get so much more relaxation and space from turning off the TV or deciding to have a TV-free evening. Listening to uplifting music has such a calming effect and while you do that you could read or journal, be more present in the moment. You could think about goals you want to set for yourself and how you will go about achieving them. This can be a good time to plan for the next day so that you are in charge and making time for what you want to get done and fitted in.

Planning for meals can be, not only a time saver, but also mean you prepare the kind of nutritious meals you want. When you have no plan or a vague one, you are more likely to fall back on the foods that are less nutritious just to fill the gap.

Making a clear choice about screen time is another matter to include as you aim to bring more order and structure into your day and week. Computers can eat time up and certainly don’t leave you rested and prepared for sleep. It’s good to decide on the time you will close down your screen for the evening and be very definite about this. It’s also good to decide how much time you will give to social media, surfing the net or emails.

Time can be eaten up with TV and other screens – with busy-ness generally, leaving no time for quiet and inner, reflective space.

One of the best decisions I ever made in creating more order in my life was to get up earlier and have a silent hour to start my day – including in that time, meditation, journaling and Spiritual reading.

 

Order in Life

 

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Order, structure, rhythm, discipline  – these are key qualities we need to build now in developing our consciousness. Without these we just drift along, often experiencing overwhelm and wasting a lot of time.

When we work to develop these qualities we use time efficiently, we become much more organised and so we have more time available to us. We change our relationship to time. We stop fighting with it and fixating on the story that we don’t have enough time.

People frequently experience overwhelm because of a lack of order and structure in life. When you are feeling stressed by too much happening, too many demands and that sense of too little time – take some quiet time to reflect and sit with your journal. Ask your Higher Self and Spirit to help you to discover solutions.

I don’t have time to take that time you might say. Don’t give into this. Make the time. Go to a quiet place and take your journal. Observe what’s going on for you. Think about why you are upset and reacting. When you use your mind in this way and write about this in your journal, you see clearly. You’re no longer being run by your emotions. When you stand back and observe your emotions, you are using your mind and this allows clarity, space and understanding.

Ask your Higher Self and Spirit for help and do your part too, by using your journal, observing your emotions and thinking about what is upsetting you. Then you can begin to think solutions because you are no longer lost in the fog and confusion of emotion. You are using your mind and working with your inner guidance.

When you decide that you are going to put more order into your life, you begin to see where and how it will make a difference to your experience. You need to be patient with yourself and to be ready to make adjustments according to what you discover as you work at putting order into your life. You also need to be persistent and choose to be excited by this project rather than heavy – don’t allow any space to that critical inner parent voice. Focus on victories and on what you want to improve and how you will go about improving.