Anger continued



The best way to deal with anger or any negative emotion, is to think about it and journal, so that you understand the cause of your anger. Keep discerning with your Higher Self and Spirit until it becomes clear to you.

It really helps to understand the inner cause of your anger or reaction rather than focus on the other as the problem and allow your emotions to get more and more rattled. When you blame the other you believe they are the cause of your anger rather than the trigger. You are left stuck in your anger. You are trying to change the other which you can’t. This leaves you feeling a victim and powerless. The only person you can change is yourself and this has you in charge and empowered. You don’t blame yourself either.

With love, firmness and honesty, seek to understand the inner cause of your anger. Then you will understand the adjustments you need to make and you will understand yourself and others more. You will expand your consciousness. You will heal what lies behind your anger.

Remember your Higher Self is bringing you this experience because there is something you need to understand more. You are repeating this lesson because you haven’t learned the lesson and you will keep repeating it until you do.

You need to listen to what’s going on for you and not by-pass this by thinking your anger is wrong and so not seeking to understand why you reacted in anger. Listen and seek to understand with love and firmness and the desire to learn. You are not bad, just stuck in faulty beliefs and these keep you suffering. It’s so important to acknowledge your emotions not squash them and also not to allow them to run you.

I had the lesson of feeling hurt by someone’s reactions over and over and I would think I shouldn’t feel hurt – this is a negative ego reaction. I would feel hurt and unaware of the anger behind it. [Others feel angry and unaware of the hurt behind it.] So I would try to replace the hurt feeling or more squash it, certainly not listen to why I felt hurt. Eventually I realised that I was not seeking to understand why this experience left me feeling hurt and when I used my journal and asking the help of my Higher self, I began to heal this repeated pattern and lesson and so not need it anymore.


As you journal like this, you begin to understand yourself more and you can see what needs clearing and healing.

Say you felt put down, put in the wrong, corrected. That is an emotional reaction because you believe another can put you down. But it is your interpretation that you have been put down. You cant be put down by another person unless you believe this. This is old faulty thinking

We need to radically change our thinking.

We are so trained in “me” thinking, ego thinking – relating everything to how it affects me. This is where we’ve been stuck because of the belief that we are the ego, the physical body, separate and therefore, under threat, in high alert, ready for fight or flight. No wonder there’s so much anxiety in people. We are not bad to be so much me-centred in our thinking. We didn’t know any different. However, now we are called on to live as a Soul, to remember who we are.



Love and Unity



There is a battle raging in our world and within ourselves –separation, fear, conflict versus unity, love, harmony. What’s happening in our world is really out-picturing what is happening within ourselves. The more we work to transmute inner conflict into harmony, peace and love, the more we will radiate these energies out into the world.

Every time you are pulled out of peace, you are experiencing conflict and part of our work in managing our energies is to transmute the conflict into harmony. Most of us live, most of the time, in a state of disharmony or conflict and mostly we are not aware of this.

There is a tendency to feel defeated, depressed by the conflict in the world – powerless to change this. However, the one person you can change is yourself and if you choose to take on the work of transmuting all inner and outer conflict in your life into harmony, peace and love – you can make a difference in our world.

Often if you are caught in inner conflict, it is mirrored in your outer life. Decide that you are going to observe yourself and to become aware of the times you are experiencing inner conflict or disharmony.  Make sure to journal about these experiences so that you understand the cause of your inner conflict. You may believe the cause is outside of you, but the cause is within you. Don’t try to work this out in your head as this just keeps it in the mental loop, at a mental level. You need to write it down, to see it physically, so that you can get clear and understand better. You might need to journal a few times on similar issues before you get more clarity and understanding. You will need patience and persistence.

When you observe yourself out of peace and experiencing conflict, ask yourself what’s upsetting you and use your journal to help you to get clear. Become aware of the power in you to transmute this experience of conflict into harmony. An example might be, you become aware that you are sitting tensely, anxious, and you choose to focus on peace or harmony and to relax your body. Try it.

Or you become aware that you are experiencing inner conflict and, when you journal about it, you realise that you are worrying about something, anticipating trouble or a negative outcome in a situation.  So you tell yourself that worry is of no use and that you need to focus on positive expectation, to focus on what you want and not on what you don’t want.  As you use your mind and don’t allow your feelings to run you, you transmute your experience of conflict into harmony and peace. Repeat the words harmony, peace a few times and feel the energy of these in your being and how good this is.



“If you strive to live in love, to think love, feel love, give love, share love, focus on love, dwell in love all day and all night long, you literally charge your aura with the fire, electricity and substance of love.” I Am University



Moving into Soul Consciousness Part 2



One of the steps to Soul Consciousness, is using our power to think – stop and think about things in the light of your Soul rather than give your power away to fear. For example when you have a problem, a challenge, sit quietly and ask Spirit and your Higher Self to help you to discern what you are to learn from this lesson/challenge and how to manage this challenge in the best way.

Another important step is to see everything as a lesson, challenge and opportunity. If it’s coming to you it’s because you need it and if you take it this way, you will learn and grow from it and not be a victim of it. You will turn a seeming negative into a positive.

This is about not blaming and not seeing things outside of self as the cause of suffering. The suffering is caused by our thoughts, beliefs, attitudes, interpretations, the stories we live by. Keep reminding yourself of this. The other may have behaved in an inappropriate manner or the situation you are faced with may be a difficult one, but if you accept it as coming to you as a lesson, you will take charge rather than feel powerless and stuck in it – and repeating the same experience.  Lessons are to help us. They are not to make life difficult – though that is how we most often see them.

Another step to Soul consciousness is building Soul powers or virtues. This means focusing on a Soul power such as love, joy, gratitude, willpower and so forth for say 7 days, meditating on it, practising it in daily life, learning from the lessons it brings to you [lessons come to help you to strengthen this power, this principle, in you so that when you are challenged you can call it in]. It means replacing vices with virtues. For example, you feel angry or resentful and you replace this with love. It’s also good in these situations to journal about the cause of your anger or resentment – not to just brush it under the carpet. You are learning to see it as your own anger and what needs clearing and healing rather than blaming it on outside causes.

 Cause and Effect



Every cause has an effect. Every effect has a cause. We need to think about things more and think in terms of cause and effect.

You might wake up with a headache and your immediate action is to go for a painkiller to get rid of it. There is no thought given to the cause of this headache – that the headache is an effect, the result of something. So instead of going for the painkiller, you could put a few drops of peppermint oil in your palm and rub your hands together and inhale. This will help and then sit with your journal and think and write about what caused your headache. Start at the physical level. Are you drinking enough fresh water? Are you getting enough exercise and fresh air? Did you eat too late? Is there enough fresh air circulating in your bedroom at night? Do you leave mobiles, computers and TVs outside of your bedroom? Did you have too much screen time the day before? Think what might have caused your headache at the physical level.

Then move onto the psychological level. Did you go to bed in an emotional state, with some issue unresolved? Were you watching violent or dramatic programmes before sleep?  Is there something about today on your mind? Are you stressed, tense about something? Think about why you have this headache and then you can really look after it and learn from it and make the adjustments you need to make so that you don’t need to keep having headaches.

You may notice that you are feeling moody or in a low mood. Ask yourself why, what has caused this and write about it in your journal. Ask your Higher Self to help you to understand the cause of your feelings. This way you don’t need to be a victim of your emotions.

If you have a reaction to something or someone, if something upsets you, ask why, what is causing this upset and write about it. And remember that the cause of your upset is coming from your thoughts, attitudes, beliefs and interpretations. The other person or situation is the trigger but not the cause.

Start to think more in terms of cause and effect and see what you learn from this and how it helps your understanding and taking charge of yourself and what you experience




We now talk of depression as an illness and the most usual solution is medication. Depression has become such a blanket term. It’s a label that is not at all helpful to us, I think.

I have heard some doctors prescribe daily walks and time in Nature and that has been of great help to many who were fortunate enough to be given such a prescription.

Many see themselves as likely to suffer depression because one of their parents did. I think this is just a learned response to stress or some unresolved issues. Some tell themselves the story that depression runs in families. No, just patterns of thinking, feeling and behaviour.

We need to look at the cause of depression – not just try to treat the symptom. Depression is an experience of defeat, of feeling something is too big, too overwhelming to deal with. It can be the result of long term unresolved negative thoughts and feelings. It can be caused by hurt and anger issues that have been internalised. Perhaps a stressful situation has been experienced for a long time or a person does not know how to talk about what’s bothering them or who to talk to – it may seem too awful to share or the idea of talking is too frightening.

Depression can also be the result of being cut off spiritually, having no connection with your Soul and with the purpose and meaning of life.

Alcohol, drugs and junk food can be causes of depression too.

People who describe themselves as depressed need to have the experience of expressing their issues in a safe situation with someone they can trust, and, through this, discover how they can heal and learn to feel good about themselves and life – and change their experience.

Depression is not an illness. It’s a response to a stressful situation. In some situations a person may need short term medication because they are not responding to the opportunity to talk about what’s bothering them.  This will not address the cause of the experience of feeling depressed but it will hopefully bring the person to the point where they can deal with the cause of their stress in a safe situation.

When you feel low ask yourself why. Listen and write in your journal. Think about why you are feeling depressed or low in energy.  Don’t just go for the quick fix and cover up the cause. Depression is an effect – look for the cause and learn and heal and grow. Take back your power to be healthy, strong and full of vitality.

Inner Truth

Many of us grew up with the belief that faith means believing without question in what you are told is truth.

Many have reacted to this by shutting out any talk of Spirituality, any mention of anything that hints of religion.

The step for us, now, is to begin to get a sense of our own inner truth, to make space to listen to our inner guidance and wisdom, to begin to recognise it and honour it.

“Do not believe in anything simply because you have heard it. Do not believe in anything simply because it is spoken and rumoured by many. Do not believe in anything simply because it is found written in your religious books. Do not believe in anything merely on the authority of your teachers and elders. Do not believe in traditions because they have been handed down for many generations. But after observation and analysis, when you find that anything agrees with reason and is conducive to the good and benefit of one and all, then accept it and live up to it!” Buddha

The call now is to open to new ideas but to always practise discernment – to always think about what we hear and read and see how it fits with our own true Self.

Saying thank you for Challenges.


Some years ago, I was reading “Grace and Grit” written by Ken Wilbur with his new wife, Treya, who had recently been diagnosed with stage 4 breast cancer.

I was struck so much by something Ken said in the book – that we need to say thank you for our challenges. Thank you for cancer, I thought?  How could you bring yourself to think this let alone say this? It stayed there in the back of my mind and now I understand.

What helped me to understand was coming across Joshua Stone’s work and his teachings.  He talks about how we are here to learn and grow, not to just get through life. This made big sense to me. Yes, life is a precious opportunity and all about learning and growing.

He explained that everything that happens is a lesson, a challenge and an opportunity.  Things that upset us are important teachers for us. They are showing us what in us needs healing and clearing.

Say, for example, that I get upset by being behind a slow car. If I go with the upset and see the driver as a nuisance, getting stressed about it, I increase my upset. If, instead, I think lesson, challenge and opportunity, I think about what this is to teach me. It’s definitely teaching me to be patient and this is a very important lesson in life. It may also be teaching me to give myself more time to get to places so that I’m not rushing [a big cause of stress].

I feel more relaxed because I am not giving my power away to my feelings. I am using my mind to think about the situation. I am not a victim of the situation. I am taking charge and learning from my experience so that I don’t have to keep repeating this lesson.