Making a Choice

 

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There is a way of thinking that will keep you in inner conflict, suffering, anxious, experiencing lack, repeating tough lessons – and –

There is a way of thinking that will have you experience more love, peace, joy, harmony, abundance and all that you long for.

We have a choice.

Most of the time we are living unconsciously in a state of inner conflict, anxious, focused on lack and anticipating troubles. We are listening to the voice of the ego, separation and fear.  We are living outside of self, trying to manage life – asleep, unaware.

It’s in making that journey within that we discover truth and all the power, love and wisdom that is within us. We connect with our true selves, with the Soul.

The ego tells you to be afraid and that things are not the best.

Every day we need to practise thinking in new ways – realising how different it is to see what happens from the ego’s perspective and from the Soul’s perspective. Using our power to think and not giving our power away to our emotions. When we are caught in an emotion we are unclear and stressed. When we calm ourselves and sit and think, we find solutions. We are in charge of our energies and what we experience.

Every time you replace a negative thought with a spiritual positive one you are replacing the old faulty thinking and experiencing how this benefits you. Your mind and heart open up, your world opens up, your mind is renewed. You are enlightened.

Every time you refuse to express a negative emotion and instead transmute it by focusing on, for instance, love or harmony or joy, you are building these Soul Powers and making them stronger in your consciousness so that it becomes easier and easier to feel the beauty and upliftment of these and to experience these. You begin to enjoy these feelings so much that you realise how much you don’t want to experience the negative emotions. You realise how much the negative emotions create chaos and jagged energy in your field and why would you choose this very unpleasant experience when you could choose love, harmony, joy, peace, gratitude – all that you long for.

When you choose to think before you speak, to respond rather than react, to think carefully about your motives and to always practise self enquiry, you are mastering your energies in service of love. You are taking charge of your energies rather than allowing them to run you.

And every bit of work you do to master your energies in service of love and to choose to live in Soul consciousness, makes a difference to the whole of humanity. You are being of service in our world and increasing these energies in our world.

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Spiritual growth involves growth on 3 levels – the physical/earthly level, the psychological/consciousness level and the Spiritual level.

The Psychological/Consciousness Level:

There is so much for us to learn and to understand about this level and once we take it on we will begin to realise what causes our suffering and how we can heal.  We will begin to realise that we can learn through deepening our understanding rather than from the school of hard knocks – where we learn through suffering – repeating the same old lessons over and over.

The first two major lessons on this level are personal power and self love and worth. Developing personal power is about taking charge of yourself and all your energies; choosing the thoughts you allow into your mind and those you don’t allow, understanding that we become what we think about all day long. When we first become more aware of our thoughts we see how negative they are so much of the time, generally fear-based and full of negative expectations. When we desire, and work, to fill our minds and hearts with spiritual, positive, love-based, joyful thoughts then this is the energy we are carrying around with us and radiating out to the world and this is what we experience more and more of in our lives.

Developing self love and worth is also essential to our psychological and Spiritual health. Your relationship to yourself is the most important relationship in your life because if you don’t love yourself it affects all your relationships – you are constantly seeking love, affirmation, security, approval, from others, from outside yourself, and this is not where it is.  When you learn to love yourself then you come into relationship with others as a whole being, rather than a part who believes that what you need is outside of yourself and your whole existence depends on you getting this. Others can never satisfy our love and security needs. We must first learn to love ourselves.

You first need to make the choice to love yourself – understanding and continually reminding yourself that you are a Soul, you are divine, you are love. You are not that lowly worm, not good enough, separate, trying to fit in, always under threat. Always speak to yourself as you would to a best friend. Your critical inner parent will focus on the little part you didn’t do so well and give you a hard time. Replace that pattern with an inner parent who is very focused on what you are doing well and points these out and then with the bit that needs improving you choose to improve and work out a plan to help yourself with this. Love and firmness, gratitude and acknowledgement of victories – are all essential to learning to love yourself. Never give yourself a hard time or speak in a critical, harsh way to yourself – these faulty habits just have you feel unlovable and unworthy and that is illusion.

 

Seeking Truth

 

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“Those who have failed to work toward the truth have missed the purpose of living.” Buddha

The purpose of living is to work toward the truth, to seek truth, discover truth. Many people have a sense of searching – always looking for a book, a course, something that will lead them on. There’s a hunger to know, to understand more.

After some years working in psychotherapy I felt there had to be more. There had to be more I could find out about suffering that would help us to understand the cause of it and how to heal rather than remain stuck in it and very often experience ourselves as victims, especially of our past. My questions and search have led me on a deeply interesting as well as challenging journey. I reach one level of understanding and I move onto another.

 

How do we know truth? How can we trust that we will know truth? Many go along with what the majority of people believe – as if this is truth. We conform to an outer code of fear and don’t listen to our own inner guidance and promptings.

Old, unquestioned beliefs generally keep us imprisoned in a false sense of security. Anything seeming to threaten these old ideas is greeted with fear. Anything different is treated with suspicion.

 

We have come to doubt the validity of our inherent spiritual perception. We mistrust it. Instead we seem to think that truth is discovered outside of Self. We go by the experience and perception of others so much of the time.  We see the experiences coming from outside ourselves as more real than the influences coming from Spirit within us. We have conformed to a fear-based external code and don’t listen to our own inner guidance.

Each one of us has an inner knowing of truth. But we need to use it, work with it, so that it gets stronger. We all have inner wisdom and when we practise discernment which is VITAL – we learn to know the difference between truth and illusion, between the voice of Spirit and the pull of ego and the lower self.

We need to open our minds and practise listening to new ideas. This way we develop our ability to discern truth. New ideas are exciting and open us up to so much more.

Fear and doubt do not help us to know truth. They contract us and imprison our Spirit. They keep us conforming.

Love and discernment are Soul qualities that open us up to greater knowing and understanding.

Fear contracts us. Love opens us up and expands us.

Many of us grew up with the belief that faith means believing without question in what you are told is truth. Many have reacted to this by shutting out any talk of Spirituality, any mention of anything that hints of religion.

The step for us, now, is to begin to get a sense of our own inner truth, to make space to listen to our inner guidance and wisdom, to begin to recognise it and honour it. We need to keep learning, growing, questioning. We need to keep progressing, moving forward.
We are here to transcend the illusion of fear and return our minds to the truth of love.

 

Silence

 

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Silence truly is golden. It is nourishing. It is essential. In the silence we can connect, centre, listen. In the silence we can begin to hear that “still small voice” within – the voice of Spirit, of our Soul.

So many think they should be socialising, generally in company and chatting.  They think this is the right way to be – there’s something wrong with you if you want time on your own, if you want to go to bed early, or have a quiet night at home on your own, or don’t want to go to a particular social event or not drink alcohol.

Spending time with others, being in relationship, is very important but, so too, is time alone. It’s all about balance. It’s also about learning to be true to yourself and not going with the crowd – feeling wrong if you think differently.

So much of life can be filled with distractions. So much of life can be numbing out.  We waste a lot of time.

In the silence we can begin to hear that “still small voice” of our Soul speaking to us, loving us, guiding us. This is our compass in life. This is where we need to be checking in – not with what others think or what the world tells us is important if you want to fit in, be cool, be liked.

Take time to sit in silence. Feel the stillness.

Take time to sit and quiet your mind. Slow down. Breathe. Become conscious of the inner you.

Light a candle and sit in silence, stillness, peace.

Find time in your day to play some uplifting music and feel the vibrations of the music touch your Soul.

Take time to be in Nature – walking, gardening, or just being out in Nature, connecting with the beauty, the wonder of our earth and world.

Make space in your day, in your life, to be still, to listen, to connect. “Who looks outside, dreams. Who looks within, awakens.” Carl Jung

Discernment  

 

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Discernment is such an important quality for each of us to develop. This means that you use your mind to think about things and discern what is truth. Your attitude is one of love, not fear.

In my newsletters I share many different ideas with you. You may find yourself rejecting some of the ideas I include. I’m not asking you to believe what I say but to think about it and try it out.

We need to open our minds to new thinking, new ideas, try them out and practise discerning what is truth. Each one of us has an inner knowing of truth. But we need to use it, work with it, so that it gets stronger.

Very often we reject ideas because they don’t fit with how we have always believed things to be. They take us out of our comfort zone so we close our minds. Fear is the reason for this.

Rejecting an idea is generally an emotional reaction. Instead ask yourself why you are resisting or rejecting some new thinking or new idea. When you do this you are using your power to think and your power to discern truth instead of giving your power away to your emotions.

It’s certainly not that you should accept every new idea, but don’t throw it out without some clear thinking.

So much of our thinking is emotional. The world is emotionally polarised – everything is emotion and more emotion. We are very identified with our emotions and we can’t control what we are identified with.

This is worth lots of discussion.

We also have prejudices and blind spots and these will stay firmly locked in position until we are ready to look at them, think about them and think about why we hold onto them. “It is harder to crack an atom than a prejudice.” Einstein

Each of us has inner wisdom and the ability to discern truth but we need to use this, practise thinking about new ideas, to develop our power to discern truth.

 

Buddha said it well –

“Do not believe in anything simply because you have heard it. Do not believe in anything simply because it is spoken and rumoured by many. Do not believe in anything simply because it is found written in your religious books. Do not believe in anything merely on the authority of your teachers and elders. Do not believe in traditions because they have been handed down for many generations. But after observation and analysis, when you find that anything agrees with reason and is conducive to the good and benefit of one and all, then accept it and live up to it!”

 

Thinking in new ways

 

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Life is a very precious opportunity.  Life is a Spiritual path and we’re not here to give out, complain, blame, feel powerless. Yet that’s what we keep doing. Take the most recent world challenge with Brexit.  So many doom and gloom predictions. So much powerlessness and negative expectation expressed in conversations.

This pattern of seeing what happens as problems rather than challenges and opportunities, is so deeply ingrained in people that it’s difficult for people to understand that there is another way to perceive challenges.

Einstein said “In the middle of difficulty lies opportunity.”

While most conversations about Brexit are filled with negative expectations and attention on the worst case scenarios there are positive voices coming through as well. Some have expressed the view that the European Union, as it is run now, is not democratic – it needs to change. It is good to look at how we do things and see how we need to improve.

We must see with this challenge that it is not just a challenge for the UK – it affects all of us. We are all in this together. This is true of most world challenges. If we do not work together for the greater good of all, we will fail to find the solutions that create more and better for all.

Take the whole matter of sustainability and looking after our earth. Many are telling us that there will be huge economic benefit in becoming more eco conscious in how we live – more jobs, more sustainable power sources, better health, better living conditions, more to share around for all.

“We shall require a substantially new manner of thinking if mankind is to survive.” Einstein

We are so used to the fear and negative expectation. That is what seems so real to us. We need to stop using powerless language and think in terms of opportunity, working together for solutions and positive action. There is so much good change taking place where people are cooperating in a spirit of goodwill, ready to learn, grow and discover.

The mayor of Copenhagen has said that they intend to be carbon neutral in ten years time and he has the citizens of Copenhagen all backing this idea and doing their part.

The Duhallow community group in north Cork has been giving a lead for many years through its work for wildlife and the environment. And there is so much more.

 

What is the Purpose of Life?

 

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More and more I see this as being a deeply important question for us to ask and to talk about together. Everyone needs a sense of purpose, to have a purpose in life.

Without purpose, you are rudderless, unclear about your direction – simply latching onto whatever comes by.  You get more and more stuck in the material world – filling up time with busy-ness, with having to have something to look forward to, with distractions.

You’re busy just getting through life.

Look at what happens when we get sick. We’ll do anything to hold onto life. Why? This is an important question. Why do I want to live longer, extend my life? What is it I want to do with my life?

Einstein said I don’t want my life artificially prolonged. He was content to make his transition and move on to the next part of his journey when that time came. He wasn’t holding on to life for the sake of it. He believed his work for this life was completed. This takes courage. We need to talk about these matters.

So people fill their lives. Alcohol helps to fill the void, drugs too. They are ways to keep up the illusion. It’s part of the numbing out.

TV, too, and screens generally – they fill up space nicely – otherwise what? Yet we need to realise that the violent, sexual and dramatic programmes and films we look at, disturb our minds, emotions and physical bodies.

It’s time to wake up and choose what you want your life to be about – this will make a whole big difference to how you live and where you put your energy.

You are here for a purpose. Each of us has a part to play in our world and each part is very important. Just think, when you choose to not entertain negative thoughts and instead fill your mind and heart with love, you feel so much better [filled with the energy of love instead of negativity] and you send the energy of love out into the world, into mass consciousness, instead of the negativity. The more each one of us practises this, the more we fill mass consciousness with Soul energy and transform the sea of negative energy.

Life is a Spiritual path and the purpose of life is to live in Soul consciousness.